DEAR DEIDRE: WHEN my son asked if his girlfriend could move in I happily obliged, but now she’s treating our house like a hotel.
I’m a 57-year-old single father. My son is 22, his girlfriend is 19 and they’ve been together for a year.
Since the moment they met he’s been smitten and whenever she stayed she seemed lovely.
However, since the moment she moved in, my son and I have been waiting on her hand and foot.
Not only have we done all the cooking and cleaning but he’s even been washing and ironing all of her clothes too.
Other than her weekend shifts in a pub, all she does is sit in his bedroom watching TV.
I’ve tried to tell my son he needs to put more boundaries in place but he won’t listen. I can tell it’s taking a toll on him but he’s too proud to admit it.
The last thing I want is to involve myself in his relationship, but it’s hard seeing her use him like this.
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DEIDRE SAYS: You’ve been kind to let her move in, but it’s time to set some boundaries.
If your son isn’t willing to tell her, you can at least put your foot down.
Tell your son that you will no longer be cooking and cleaning for them and if she doesn’t start contributing she will need to move out.
Don’t allow her to take advantage. They’re both adults and if they were living independently they would need to do more chores.
